PREFACE\nThis is a collection of readings from various sources. Each article throws some light on alternative social systems. They intrigue because they are different from models known to me all my life. But I have no obstinate allegiance to any particular social code, and it is easy to accept that other people have adopted other life models. The important conclusion is that ALL these life models have worked for the groups that live those.\nI have great respect for each of these alternate models, and I do not subscribe to the view that they are what missionaries called \u2018barbaric\u2019 models.\nDiscovering such alternate models through the writings and first hand experiences of others, has been a mind opening experience for me. It teaches me the true meaning of the word \u2018paradigm\u2019.\n***\nHeinrich Harrer provides a real life account of his life in Tibet during his escape during World War II.\n\u00a0\nHe talks about how he was astonished by the life of the nomads outside Sangsang:\n\u201cWe soon ran into a nomad\u2019s tent where we were well received \u2026This time our hostess was a young woman. She quickly made us cups of butter tea\u2026.Over her bare skin she wore a sheepskin cloak reaching down to the ground. In her long black pigtail she wore mussel-shells, silver coins and various cheap ornaments from abroad. She told us that her two husbands had gone out to drive in the animals. \u2026We were astonished to find polyandry practised among nomads. It was only when we were in Lhasa that we came to know all the complicated reasons which led to the simulataneous existence in Tibet of polyandry and polygamy\u201d\nA woman may marry several brothers and a man may marry several sisters.\nThe reason for this custom, is to avoid the partitioning and fragmentation of ancestral estate.\nEven though it is now illegal by Chinese law, polyandry may still be found in rural Tibet.\n\u00a0\n***\nVictor Paul writes about his own experience in Khampa \u2013 eastern Tibet.\n\u201cOur host Shureb had just warned us to be careful and alert that night, for the man who had been hovering around us all afternoon\u2014a distant relative with a goofy face and a shifty gait\u2014had been boasting around the encampment that he would sneak into our tent in the dark. But what exactly did he want? Did he intend to steal my things? Or did he want to rape Tashhedekyid, my interpreter?\nBoth were common incidents in the Khampa grasslands: theft from neighbors and friends and even distant family members was common, and so was the cornering of single girls for sex.\nThe latter was perhaps accepted as a cultural norm\u2014after all, in Khampa customs, a visiting male relative has to sleep with the wife of his host\u2014and I had heard Khampa girls saying they enjoyed the semi-forced sexual encounters, if you could call them \u2018forced,\u2019 for the girls did not seem to resist. And Tashedekyid was a Khampa herself, hailing from a nomads\u2019 family.\u201d\n***\nChristopher Baumer & Therese Weber write :\n\u201cIn the rare case of polyandry, when one woman marries more than one brother at the same time, she remains the spouse of the eldest brother with the children regardless of paternity. Polyandry occured mainly out of economic necssity and was more common in central Tibet among farmers.\nIn a matrilocal wedding, a woman can have more than one husband and if she wants she can pay off her first husband and send him away.\nDrokpas (animal herders) grow up freely, without the formation of gender specific tabbos as known by farmers and city dwellers. For example, an illegitimate child is not an embarassment for either the mother or the family. In contrast, it proves the young woman\u2019s fertility.\nInfertility is a defect however. It gives the husband the right to marry another woman and live polygamously.\u201d\nAnother example of alternate sexual morality of Amdo drokpas \u201cis the so called diving bride marriage. A woman enters such a marriage when she either wants to stay in her family or does not find a man. The woman is married to heaven by a Bonpo or a lama thereby gaining the status of a married woman. She then has the right to have children with whomever she chooses. Her children are called children granted by heaven or children conceived by heaven\u201d\n***\nInteresting isn\u2019t it?\nThe first of the series \u2013 Alternate Sexuality Traditions -1 The Khmers is available here .\njm\nThe post Alternate Sexuality Traditions 2 \u2013 Tibetans appeared first on The Art Blog by WOVENSOULS.COM.